It’s time for a Q&A! In season one, the big idea is about reaching our goals and crafting our best life in the new year. In this episode, Jillian answers questions from viewers.
Enduring Tough Times
Rachel asked for some tips to push through the rough, cyclical times in life where we don’t seem to be making any progress. She even feels like the good things that she enjoys can be cyclical.
Many of us struggle with this, which is why previous episodes have really emphasized the importance of focus, picking a few things to work on, being intentional with those things. When we overcommit, things get overwhelming, and it can become easy to get discouraged when we don’t see the results.
“I try to keep my baseline success as a human metric very low. So anything above that is flexible and it’s winning.”
Everyone’s baseline and is different, and it’s important to find one that works best for you and lean into it.
Making Goals with your Partner
In the next question, Paul asked how to work with your partner to come up with goals that you both share and are excited about.
It can be tricky, but one of the previous episodes talked about setting decade goals, and this idea can be useful when making goals with your partner. Setting big goals for the year can put too much pressure on you both, but by focusing and giving your goals enough time to develop, you can expect better results.
The next question is more difficult. Nicole’s daughter goes to a prestigious highschool, but Nicole explained that the school was stressful and wasn’t meeting up with her daughter’s personal goals and interests. Her daughter has the opportunity to go to a more relaxed school, but Nichole is worried transferring would be backing away from a challenge.
While intense structure can be helpful on the short term, eventually a transition must be made, because real life and college is a lot less structured. Finding a middle ground may be a good way to help make that transition.
JP wrote in and was wondering how to set goals with your partner when you have opposite goals. When you’re living your life with another person, sometimes you do have completely opposite goals and interests!
“While it’s important to work on shared goals, it’s also important to acknowledge, you know, we’re different people and we’re going to have some different goals.”
Sometimes your goals will overlap, while other goals you have will be completely different, and the best solution is to plan and have healthy compromise you both agree on, while acknowledging that your goals are different, and that that’s okay!
Here’s a breakdown of the episode:
[01:02] Rachel asks for tips to stay motivated when things in life are cyclical. Jillian explains how important it is that we focus on improving a few things instead of trying to do everything at once.
[02:52] Paul wrote in and asked how to come up with exciting goals you and your partner are both motivated about. Instead of setting short term goals and stressing ourselves and each other out when we struggle to meet them, try setting exciting long-term, decade goals that you both can work toward.
[03:48] Nicole’s daughter goes to a prestigious, highly structured highschool. Nicole wondered if they should transfer to a more relaxed school that accommodates her daughter’s hobbies and interests, or if that would be backing away from a challenge. Jillian explained that sometimes a more moderate structure is more beneficial for some people, since life and college can be less structured.
[07:29] The last question is from JP, and he wanted to know the best way to set goals with your partner when you both have opposite goals. It’s inevitable to have some goals that are different, and it’s okay to compromise and acknowledge that they’re different.